The absence of the sexual harmony is fundamental in most of the problems of couples. Usually, once that the initial fervour and the energy of the beginning diminish, the sexual aspect moves on a horizontal line, and the sexual communication becomes repetitious or monotonous.

This type of massage is meant to revitalize the sexual, mental and romantic levels within the couple, offering at the same time new ways of exploration. The massage is given with synchronous movements, the syncronicity of the rythm itself creating a harmony between the yin and the yang (feminine, masculine), harmony that represents the basis for a deep love relationship.

In the oriental tradition the yin and the yang are the opposed complementary forces of existence. Their relative game brings forth the complete silence. YIN is the feminine, passive force oriented towards the inside and which gives body substance. YANG is the masculine, bright, active force, oriented towards the outside, which gives body motivation.

It is essential to know that existence cannot escape these two cosmic forces that are opposed and manifested through women and men on a human level. Substance without motivation is inert, while motivation without substance leads nowhere. In the tantric tradition the feminine energy is called Shakti, while the masculine energy is called Shiva. Shakti without Shiva is chaos, whereas Shiva without Shakti is death.

Carl Jung himself sustained his well-known theory of Anima and Animus, that explains that in every man's heart there also exists a feminine aspect, which he called Anima. In a similar way, in every woman's heart there exists a masculine element,which he called Animus.

THE METHOD OF EXPLORATION OF THE INTERNAL OPPOSITES, consists in understanding that the woman or man with whom we share our life or to who we feel attracted is most probably very similar to our internal opposite. Not understanding this principle may deeply affect the quality of relationships we have with the opposite sex.

THE MIRRORED BEHAVIOUR – whichever our attitude towards the opposite sex may be, it will be reflected in our own masculine or feminine behaviour. Any good or bad action will reflect on our internal opposite sex. So it is well worth treating our beloved one as a divine reflection of this internal opposite I. Therefore we may show and offer our partner exactly what we want to receive, behaving exactly as we would like him to behave towards us, instead of being reproachful, critical, etc.


LOVING OURSELVES=LOVING THE ONE WHO STANDS BY US
Before becoming capable of loving someone, we have to learn to love ourselves, experimenting love like a positive feeling that is reflected in our beings and our bodies. The first step is accepting ourselves the way we are. One has heard this so many times, but how many of us do it in the most profound way, in all aspects that we are aware of, or those that we deny? The negative judgements we make about our bodies may lead to contempt and to an energetic blocage. Merely touching our body in a healing way is stating our own value and love of ourselves.

FAITHFULNESS - The idea that faithfulness is the same thing with sexual faithfulness is a misconception. It comes from the belief that the sexual force is the fundamental bond between the partners. Faithfulness is a state of the heart and of the divine soul which is within, not of the sexual parts. When people misunderstand this, a conflict appears, relating to pleasure. One may have a tendency that society or one's partner will not accept and such a conflict will lead to guilt or shame. The partner who follows his tendency of getting sexually fulfilled outside the relationship may feel as if he has betrayed the other partner, feeling guilty or ashamed, and becoming resentful. The same happens if one or both partners want to experience sexual relationships with other people, but they do not fulfil this desire, in the name of a so-called loyalty or because of fear. In this case, a tendency may appear in the partner who has suppressed his feeling, to blame unconsciously the other one for the lack of one's sexual pleasure. The sexual function is creative, while the function of the heart is connexion. By transforming the couple relationship into a spiritual search for unity, one can release the creative sexual forces within the couple and become one with the divine source of everything. This state reveals the true meaning of faithfulness, and from that point on, sexuality will be considered exactly as it is, - an instrument. As a rule, the partner who feels “betrayed” becomes jealous.

JEALOUSY - In order to understand jealousy, first of all one has to understand the so many aspects of the fear to be abandoned or to lose somebody. Fear is implicitly linked to survival, and jealousy can sometimes take shape beyond any logical explanation. This is due to a sudden abundance of hormones (the energy of kidneys) as a response to what the subconscious perceives as being a threat. Neither jealousy, nor resentment make a more functional relation, and therefore, they have to be solved.